It’s not about “getting down to Business” when you have a goal to control food and alcohol

by | Feb 27, 2022 | Men & Money

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 BE-𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘂𝘀 𝗗𝗢-𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲, 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗮𝘀𝘁-𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲! Trying to control food and alcohol with the same strategies you’ve used in the past to reach goals in your Business just doesn’t work here! 🔁

[Believe me, if that were the case then I would’ve long before now taken home the award for being able to stop drinking wine and cure my obsession with late-night-snacking.]

I kept trying to “start Monday” and say “I’m not drinking through the week” or “that’s IT, I’m making 5 calls a day in my business”, and once I realized I had my roadmap to real change going-backwards, that was the biggest game changer for me. ↔️

This happens when you try to start with ACTION-alone. ⁉️Starting with STOPPING (just changing the behavior) is Not the best path!
•••If a person could “just stop” then they would! Period!

⚠️I know this sounds so counter-intuitive to most habit change and goal-getting advice because the issue doesn’t lie in the question of “Can-I or Can’t-I Do It?”, because the fact is, you really Can!
⚠️ The issue lies in the game-plan a woman thinks she should follow of simply bearing down, nose-to-the-grindstone, short-term-sacrifice-for-long-term-gain (•this has cause a lot of women confusion and pain in the business world) and FINALLY Just Fit-Fo (Figure-it-the-F-Out) …she has already lost the game before she can even start.

🗺 Instead, if she could reverse her “traditional” roadmap from the way she’s always approached behavior change:

𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝘿𝙤 𝙄𝙩! (𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧)
𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙎𝙡𝙖𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜-𝙖𝙡𝙡-𝙙𝙖𝙮 at work AND THEN trying to make great decisions at night when it comes to meal & drink choices (without a plan) is not only NOT Sustainable, it’s a set-up for a fall even for the most high-achieving women I know.

🙌 So 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝘿𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙠 is what most people either don’t want to hear or don’t fully believe yet, is that if you want to create & keep new habits then you must realize one important thing: ➡️The clearest roadmap to reaching your goals, no matter what they are, is to approach them in this order: KNOWLEDGE > EMOTION > ACTION!

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙁𝙚𝙚𝙡, 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙀𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙄𝙎 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢 𝙣𝙚𝙬 𝙝𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙩𝙨 & 𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙞𝙙𝙞𝙛𝙮 𝙡𝙖𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚. It’s Not just repetition (# of days). It’s Not just how often (checking boxes). It might be a little Magic 😉(just because everything’s better with magic ✨). But truly, it’s our EMOTIONS, coupled with new facts and knowledge that make the outcomes sweeter and not confusing!

💕My wins in weight loss were “Feeling-into” sliding in to my clothes comfortably (& not being strangled by my bra)
💕My wins in controlling alcohol without feeling deprived were DESIRING MORE the Feeling of wanting crystal-clarity, not feeling foggy & wanting the voice of alcohol to be small and irrelevant
💕My wins in business came from a deep desire to empower women, find freedom from corporate America, build wealth & legacy (the work part is not always FUN, but the way I feel Trumps bolsters the progress)!

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪-𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘂𝘀 𝗗𝗢-𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 (she’s already used to winning in so many other areas), and feels clear on her journey (confidence in the right roadmap), her energy & trust in herself will automatically rise-up to meet her. ♥️ This makes her Unstoppable!

And it’s these facts & knowledge, paired with a deep Understanding of the process of gaining control, where she’ll find her best path to moving away from just Surviving (white-knuckling) to truly ✨ Thriving (changing the desire and feelings of what’s it like to be a take-it-or-leave-it person).
✨ This is exactly what I teaching 𝗡𝗘𝗪 𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲 program.

𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲 is a perfect next step for women who:
•Love judgement free guidance, that you would be used to from me, that I’m excited to provide as you navigate your relationship with food and alcohol (& 𝙗𝙪𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨, 𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙄 𝙘𝙖𝙣’𝙩 𝙉𝙊𝙏 𝙩𝙖𝙡𝙠 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙞𝙩 😆) without feeling deprived.

•Learn how to permanently (re)gain full, consciously-competent control over your eating & drinking habits and routines — to live a life of health, happiness and freedom.

•Need support and guidance from someone who’s walking the walk and knows what it’s like to be on their own journey to freedom from food & alcohol and have succeeded.

•Want an extra dose of motivation and accountability to make sure these amazing changes easily & effortlessly stick with you.

If you’re frustrated being in a stop>start>stuck cycle, white-knuckle, counting days or feel that Doing a “dry challenge” isn’t enough, you might find that an additional 6 weeks of support & information in a small group community delivered in a way you most likely haven’t heard before, will give you that chance to really create Lasting Change.
If you’d like to receive more information on Thrive — 6 weeks to lasting change, DM me with your email or click the Contact Me button, I’ll ask you a few questions and we’ll see if it’s a fit for you.𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪-𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘂𝘀 𝗗𝗢-𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲


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I’m Shelley, a business woman, a mom and a certified coach with This Naked Mind, providing a new way to look at sustainable behavior change when it comes to controlling food and/or alcohol that is both understandable and achievable.




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